Happy New Year, everyone – and WELCOME to Day One of the Annual Hate Loss Challenge. I am so glad you’re here! Taking this first step to being attentive of the way you treat the most valuable person you know – YOU – is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It is my hope that by the end of this month you’ll be well on your way to:
Being mindful, which will allow you to meet each moment with full awareness.
Becoming more compassionate with yourself.
Eliminating insecurities that are weighing you down by giving yourself the love and respect you deserve.
These may seem like trivial exercises at first but if you aren’t used to reinforcing the goodness within, they can be quite tricky to downright difficult to do. Pick up any self help book or simply Google the words self-esteem and you’ll find study after study which proves that having a non-judgmental, appreciative opinion of yourself is crucial to your overall well being.
To show my appreciation to everyone who completes the 31 Days of Gratitude and attends all of our group therapy Thursday sessions, you will be entered into a drawing to win an 8×10 print from one of my paintings:
I wrote a quote which reads: “I am both imperfect yet, perfect. My branches may bend and twist, but I am beautiful, still.” I think this is a perfect reminder of what this challenge is all about. If you’d like more information on this print, head over to my Etsy shop. Please note that if you are interested in this drawing, you’ll need to officially enter your intention of committing to the challenge in the comments section of this post to be considered. It’s my way of keeping track of everyone
Thirty One Days of Gratitude begins today!
By now you should have your Gratitude Jar in place; by bedtime tonight you should have a slip of paper in your jar or container with a sentence or two about what you were thankful or grateful for today.
For my gratitude container I decided to use a large flower vase I had in storage. I dressed it up a bit with ribbon and a pine cone, and put it on my night stand, complete with a pen and note pad:
There is only one rule for this exercise: Please try to remember to add to your gratitude jar daily. If you forget a day, no worries – just add when you can so that you get the most of what this challenge has to offer. Remember, you’re attempting to create a habit with the intention of enriching your life! What you write this month is completely up to you, and there is no wrong answer.
What if you should have a day when nothing goes right and it’s been a completely awful, terrible, horrible I hope to never, ever have another day like this again! kind of day and you’re in such a state that you simply can’t get past it to be grateful for anything? Well, I have an answer for that, too! Ask yourself this question before you write your moment of gratitude:
What didn’t happen to me today?
Answering that question will provide you with a moment of gratitude. Right now I’ve got three things in mind that I could put into my gratitude jar: a) I didn’t have to bathe my dogs today. b) I didn’t spill any tea on my clean shirt today (something I do ALL of the time!) c) I didn’t come down with the cold that’s been going around today. ALL things to be grateful/thankful for.
Need more inspiration? Here are some wonderful quotes on gratitude that I found which should totally put you in the mood for this exercise:
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” – Epictetus
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
- William Arthur Ward
“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant. To enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch heaven.” Johannes A. Gaertner
In addition to doing 31 Days of Gratitude, we will be working on self esteem throughout the month. On Thursday, January 3rd, I’ll be posting information about our next exercise. Don’t miss it!
XO,
~Ellen







