This next exercise is more of a topic for you to think about and ponder for the week. The subject is Acceptance.
There are several types of patterns that low self esteem allows into our lives:
2. mood swings
3. eating disorders
8. unhealthy relationships
Having a healthy sense of self esteem brings happiness, contentment, peace, pride and joy. We can learn to create a healthy sense of esteem if we choose to have acceptance in our lives.
Acceptance is a controversial word for some in the weight loss community. To some, acceptance means ‘resigning to what is’. Example: Being asked to accept myself is like saying I should never strive to improve upon areas I see as a problem.. To me, that means the same as giving up.
A good description regarding Acceptance comes from a book 10 Simple Solutions For Building Self Esteem by Glenn R. Schiraldi, P.H.D. In it, the author states:
“Acceptance means ‘to take in or welcome’. To accept then, is to see clearly and with full awareness the good and the bad, suffering and joy as part of life, and to experience life without battling, insisting that things be different or immediately trying to change or fix or get rid of the present distress. When we accept guests into our home, we receive them with pleasure just as they are. When we accept ourselves, we experience ourselves with a similar, welcoming attitude.”
Dr. Schiraldi makes an excellent point. Acceptance does not mean resignation. It simply means that we see things as they currently are, and here is the most important part: when the decision to act becomes clear then we can also act with acceptance and without resistance.
When we release our death grip on control, we gain a greater sense of accepting what is; then we can make the decision to change the things that no longer serve us.
This next week I challenge you to think about what it is you accept in your life. If you are able, put it into words for next week’s group therapy.
Some motivational quotes to help you along the way this coming week:
“My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.”
~ Michael J. Fox
“Acceptance means events can make it through you without resistance”
“Love is made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure:
Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart.
Which, by the way, is something highly inadvisable. Think about it — do you really want to live in a world of only two dimensions?
So, for the love of a triangle, please keep love whole.”
~ Vera Nazarian
Also, how is the 31 Days of Gratitude coming along? We are 2/3 of the way through and I’d love to hear how it’s affected your January so far!
Have a great weekend!