Fat Girl Wearing Thin

Life beyond the loss.

   Dec 13

Hate Loss Challenge 2013 Introduction

Gah!!  January will be here in no time, which means I’d better share with you my overview on the upcoming annual Hate Loss Challenge for January, 2013 Smile



This challenge has evolved over the last couple of years, and every year – thanks to readers spreading the word – it continues to grow with more and more participants. 

It all started between Thanksgiving and Christmas in 2010.  As I read browsed and read various weigh loss blogs I noticed a common theme:  many bloggers were amping up for weight loss challenges to kick off the New Year, determined to work off those extra holiday pounds.  While these weight loss challenges were nothing new (I’ve had several of those New Year resolutions myself), many of these perfectly beautiful young women were berating themselves for not having met a certain goal for the year; I read post after post of bloggers beating themselves up for not having dropped that pound for the week and ultimately, disgracing themselves on their blogs for the way they looked. 

I decided that what if, in addition to these weight loss challenges, there was a hate-loss challenge that focused more on loving ourselves for who we are at this moment? 

So, on January 1st 2011 the Hate-Loss Challenge was born.  Given ‘exercises’ to do for that month, we started creating a more positive environment for ourselves and learned to accept the goodness and beauty in each of us as we made our way towards a healthier lifestyle.  We came together here on my blog one day a week for Group Therapy Thursday and shared our progresses, our concerns and supported each other with theirs.  Those who blogged committed to writing their own post so their readers could be involved and offer support. 

Many things will remain the same, such as Group Therapy Thursday.  This is the day when participating bloggers post their progress reports as well as link their posts to my own progress post so that readers can visit and read other people’s posts, as well as offer support.  There will be a few new surprises this year, including giveaways! 

Note: **You do NOT have to be a blogger to participate.  You can commit to this challenge by following the exercises and then reporting your own progress report in the comments section of my blog every Thursday.  This is OUR challenge – all of us; no exclusions Smile

Still have questions?  Go to the Hate-Loss Challenge Information tab at the top of my blog and you’ll get an idea of what you’re in for.  

More to come.  In the meantime, for those of you who already know you’d like to participate or simply just spread the word, feel free to grab my HL Challenge badge located on the right of my sidebar and add it to your blog. 



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  1. Lynn Bonelli says:

    You KNOW I will be here! So looking forward to this. After rereading my last 2 posts I see how the “hate” has been sneaking back into my life (or trying to). This is so timely! Thanks Ellen, you are an awesome hostess!

  2. Lisa Eirene says:

    It’s a great idea. I feel the same way. Lots of people with new year’s resolutions to lose weight and a lot of them don’t need to! I like this idea.

    • Ellen says:

      You are right, Lisa. This is a typical New Year’s blogging thing – and there’s nothing wrong with doing something like that if its helpful, but I was surprised at all of the negativity involved and how it ALL came down to weight. Life certainly is NOT all about the weight. When it comes off, we still live in the same house, with the same problems and the same job, usually. This challenge is about working from the inside out. Thank you for your comment!

  3. LauraJayne says:

    I’m in! I love that you do this!

    • Ellen says:

      thank you, Laura – I was hoping you’d say that :) You already inspire so many people and I know that if it fits into your schedule you’ll be a great asset during the month of January!

  4. I love it! Can you give an example of a “challenge” you’ve done in the past. I’m very curious! Thanks.

  5. Munchberry says:

    I am not going to be a participant, but a choosy actor. The minute I agree to a challenge there is something in me that requires me to do the opposite of the challenge. SO. I will sneak into it casually, no stress.

    Plus I am feeling pretty snappy these days and I don’t want to muck it up. Self acceptance is a slippery thing. I am all happy with myself until I am suddenly not.

    • Ellen says:

      Gotta protect what you’ve got, M. Casual is fine and dandy. You’ve been at this kind of thing long enough that you could run my challenge, so I’m counting on you offering up plenty of advice 😉

  6. Beth says:

    I’m in Ellen :)

  7. Hanlie says:

    You know I’ll be there! I’ve only recently come to realize how utterly horrified I am by my body. I’ve made a lot of progress in accepting my SELF – the person I am – but at the same time I’ve become ashamed of my body. Naturally this has led to a separation of body and mind/self. So I need this challenge!

    • Ellen says:

      Accepting my body post-surgery had been very, very difficult. I have had to work on it. Really WORK. Still not there, yet. This challenge is coming at the right time for me, and I’m thrilled you’ll be joining me again this year. You always have so much to offer, Hanlie. You’ll be of great support. xoxo

  8. Brandi says:

    I found this link on Laura’s blog and just loved this idea! There are days that I think that I was happier when I was heavier. Not sure why, but I do. I have a HUGE sense of rejection when it comes to my body, so I NEVER put myself in the position to be rejected. This comes at a perfect time for me as well. :)

    • Ellen says:

      That is fantastic, Brandi – I’m thrilled to have you as part of this challenge. I think this is something we all can benefit from. See you in January :)

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