Hate-Loss Challenge Topic List: Week One
Topic for Group Therapy Day, January 5th:
Looking Back and Letting Go
This week’s exercise: Think back to a time or place in your life when you formed negative thoughts about yourself. Why do you think you are undeserving of praise?
Was there a specific event that caused you to change the way you perceive yourself?
Is it because you’ve always been reminded of your imperfections or weaknesses?
Is it because you’re not receiving enough positive feedback from people whose opinions really matter to you?
Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself?
Were you taught these habits from living in an unhealthy environment?
Write about it, and then ask yourself: How can I find a way to forgive those who have hurt me? How can I forgive myself?
Finally, discuss the Positive Reinforcement Sheet and how it’s working out so far. Are there any particular words you are struggling with? Any words that are becoming easier to say? How does it feel hearing you speak in a positive manner about yourself?
Remember: Give yourself the gift of honesty here, but don’t feel pressured to write about things that you may not be ready to share with other readers. This is YOUR exercise. You can be as vague or as detailed as you are comfortable with. The idea is to allow yourself to come face-to-face with the past so you can begin to put it behind you.
Thought for the Day: Sometimes, unresolved feelings cling to us without us realizing it. If you are holding on to something negative from your past, think about the feelings you carry with those memories: is it shame? Guilt? Anger? Pain? They can’t be seen, but they are there, holding you back from living the life you deserve. Forgiving the past takes away it’s control over you. It allows you to let go and begin living in the moment and for your future.
Quotes of the Week:
"We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive; but the very fact we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing practice."
~ Louise Hay
"Holding resentment is like eating poison and waiting for the other person to keel over."
“When we forgive evil we do not excuse it, we do not tolerate it, we do not smother it. We look the evil full in the face, call it what it is, let its horror shock and stun and enrage us, and only then do we forgive it.”
~ Lewis B. Smedes
No free-ride just because I’m hosting this challenge. I have thought long and hard about when this negative behavior began in my life and will be spending the week working on my own post for Thursday. Good luck to all of you with your exercises. Remember to stop by here from your blog and link to your update post from my comments section on Thursday so other participants know how to find you and offer support. Another reminder to those of you who don’t run a blog: you can still participate – just post your update in my comments section on Thursday. I don’t want anyone feeling excluded from this Challenge.
Have a great Monday, everyone!